When You Choose Someone to Marry, Choose Someone Who….
When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who believes in you.
If you read my post last week, you understand that I’ve had a certain challenge professionally during the past 6 months. It has been discouraging at times. One of my top strengths in my personality is focus. This can be good and very, very bad. Everything in my life has been incredible other than this one area, but it’s amazing how one area can leave you feeling anything but inspired. It’s all to bring me to the next level (I know!), but it feels like I’ve been being squeezed through the very, very tiny eye of a needle. Can anyone relate? The pains of transitioning from glory to glory not only include stretching but shrinking. The shrinking is so we let go of what’s not needed anymore to move forward. Those things may have been vital at one time, but we’re journeying forward and can’t take them with us to the new place.
During my professional challenges this year, my husband has been my biggest encourager. He has believed in me when I lost sight of what I carry and who I really am. He speaks the truth of who I am over me and helps me laugh at the lies I’ve created at times in my own head. When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who believes in you. It is truly priceless.
When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who knows how to speak life over life.
When life happens to you instead of you happening to life, and it challenges what you know to be true of the nature of God, that person can speak life over you and those situations. My husband reminds me of God’s faithfulness when I’m having doubts. He speaks life over us and our situation. He helps me remember that we have a really big all-powerful Father! When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who knows how to speak life over life. You won’t regret it.
When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who builds connection during trying times.
This week, all I needed was my husband’s encouragement and hugs. I would tell him, ‘I just need hugs’. He would then precede to hug me and hug me and hug me. This kind of connection is so important when we go through challenging times. It plays out differently depending on your love language and personality, but it is still very needed. Choose someone who builds connection when times try the soul. Disconnecting from relationship during tough times causes so much pain in relationship. When you choose someone to marry, choose someone who builds connection during trying times. You will be a happy couple.
Now, my struggle is trivial. A professional challenge for 6 months? Big deal. I know that there are so many other difficult things that people face, but it was still trying for me. It was pressing on my identity and belief in who I was, despite any type of performance. For someone with a personality like mine (high acheiver, likes to produce and create, driven), failure to produce creates a sort of identity crisis if you let it. God was taking me to a new level of trust, a place of letting go of performance to a greater degree. One thing that I know about God is that if it’s important to me, it’s important to Him.
Guess what? This week I gained my largest client to date! God is faithful, He is so committed to moving us from glory to glory! I know this breakthrough signifies much more than a large sale, it signifies a movement forward in God. He’s committed to us. He’s committed to our dreams. His love is moving us forward in life. No good father wants his children to be stagnant, he helps them take steps into their future dreams, including marriage.
A good question to ponder: If someone were to choose you to marry today, would you be the one who believes in them, knows how to speak life over life and builds connection with them when times try the soul? We attract who we are. Such an empowering place to live!
I heard a great question the other day, “Am I the person that the person I’m looking for is looking for?”…..
You are the leading lady or man of your own love story, partnered with a good and faithful God. He’s moving you from glory to glory in this great adventure of life!
Wendee Mannon, Relationship Coach, OnDaySix-Staff Writer, Wendee’s Bio